Self Improvement Listening To Your Heart

Posted by Self Improvement Specialist on September 17th, 2010 filed in Self Improvement

A little while back, I had to clean up the mess after a self help “guru” advised one of my clients that she should ‘follow her heart’ in pursuing a guy that she’d had an intermittent relationship with for the past three years. Her heart told her that he was what she wanted – even though there was plenty of evidence that would suggest the exact opposite to a casual observer. But, she took this “guru’s” advice and threw herself body and soul into making him love her! Bet that you can guess the outcome.

That said, if she really was listening to her heart, how could it have turned out so pear-shaped? The phrase “listen to your heart” is a loaded one. First of all, we should be paying little or no attention to what our heads are telling us. Most highly successful business people recommend that you should go with your gut (another word for heart) and research confirms that the normal mind wanders through a mist of useless thought – up to fifty thousand thoughts every day.

But, if the head is in a fog, the heart is obscured behind a veil of much more dangerous useless thought – thoughts that have been skulking in the shadows since our formative years – thoughts that the subconscious mind likes to live in – and it is most likely to cosy up to those thoughts if they happen to be negative. So, when most of us listen to our hearts, we’re listening to something that’s been seriously distorted by our own programming and conditioning so that we end up thinking that we know what will make us happy – which is often a far cry from what is truly best for us.

So, if you want to be certain that you’re listening to your gut instinct or your heart, you’ll have to get past this veil of toxic thought and the only way to do that – and it’s blindingly obvious when you think about it – is to clear your mind. We all need to clear our mind completely – it will enable us distinguish the wood from the trees! But, more importantly, a clear mind is an inspired mind and it is through inspiration that we are best guided towards the life of our dreams.