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We all want something more from your life. There are those who want to alter their lives radically – some of us have hang-ups about ourselves that we’d like to change. However, sadly, for most of us, life keeps getting in the way! The daily stress of life – yes, millions of ordinary mere mortals are suffering from stress and national health services all over the developed world are spending a fortune trying to treat the related illness – stops us dead – almost literally!

However, here’s something that you need to know. If you believe that stress has invaded your life, you’re making a big mistake! Stress does not get in your way – you’re actually destroying your own life yourself. You are the problem – but that means that you can also be the solution. How could you be the problem? You see, in reality, there’s no such thing as stress. Sure, it seems real enough, its side effects are real enough, the related illness, damaged relationships and anxiety are real enough. But these are all no more than the symptoms of an illusionary disease. Because, stress is simply a figment of the imagination, a creation of the normal adult mind that is paying no attention to reality and, instead, is trying to make sense of what’s happening – and it’s using completely out of date data.

I’ve some explaining to do on that one! Something happens that gets up your nose or stresses you out. It’s not the something that happens that’s the problem. It’s what you make of it, how you think it makes you feel and, as a consequence, your reaction. You make up your mind on all these things using the conditioning that you learned during your formative years. This is the data that your subconscious mind calls upon to evaluate everything that happens and everyone that you encounter – and that includes those difficult people that you think are stressing you out.

Sadly, your subconscious mind will always – I repeat, always – refer to this now irrelevant data – and it does it automatically. This disastrous process is your default state of mind. And, as I’ve said, it always will be until you do something concrete to change it. And that something different involves you re-training your subconscious to pay attention to what is actually happening right now – not what your subconscious has concluded is going on! You must understand that your normal conclusions about current events can never – yes, you heard me, never – be right. It’s using the wrong data!

How are you going to break this bad habit? I’ve suggested that you must re-train yourself. I use the word re-train because, when we were little kiddies, we didn’t pay attention to what we thought was going on, we paid attention to reality. And you’ve got to get back to that way of looking at the world. To put an end to the process through which that old out-of-date data is used, you’ve got to teach yourself to focus on what your senses are actually telling you – and not allow your subconscious mind to leap to different conclusions.

You should meditate – because meditation disciplines an otherwise undisciplined mind. When you meditate you train yourself to pay attention to the reality of the present moment, what it sounds like, how it feels when you breathe in and out, what you can feel in your arms and legs. You interrupt the process of second guessing what’s actually happening. Until you do that, the stress will never go away.

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