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Everyone gets frustrated every so often. People’s behaviour does our head in, we get frustrated by our own failures, we get annoyed over things that we can’t control – like the volcanic ash or the weather! But what of those of us who are doing our best to live a more successful life, or even change our lives, who get frustrated because nothing seems to be happening, we don’t seem to be making any progress?

Newsflash! – the one sure way of holding yourself back is wondering why you’re not going forward! Frustration is a waste of our precious energy and attention. Wondering why what we want to happen hasn’t happened yet is a useless, negative, self-defeating thought that is tantamount to saying to ourselves “well, I sort of knew that it wasn’t going to happen anyway!”

You and I have a finite amount of energy at our disposal and your personal development goal should be to marshal that energy and focus it, like a laser beam, on getting on with both what we have to do now and moving towards whatever it is that you want out of life. Frustration, worry or even wondering about when, how or if something will happen is a dangerous distraction, a self-destructive use of your energy – it’s like you’re targeting your powerful laser beam back on yourself! You have to be so careful where you point that laser beam because it can be equally constructive or destructive.

However, if you’re normal, your laser beam isn’t turned on at all. Psychology tells us that the normal person pays little or no attention to anything and invests a pathetic one percent of their energy in doing what they’re supposed to be doing. And if you aren’t doing what you should be doing now, when are you going to start? The only place and time that you are is the present moment – the only time and place that you can focus your attention is this very moment. Wishful thinking, daydreaming, wanting or needing are an utter waste of your energy because these distractions are irrelevant to the scientific reality that everything exists only now.

So, if you’re frustrated that you don’t seem to be making any headway, it’s your own frustration itself that’s pinning you down. If you feel that you’re stuck in a rut, it’s that very feeling that will perpetuate your discomfort. You’ve got to direct your attention to the urgency of living in the present moment. Now is the place and time that requires your energy – not some of it, like normal crazy people, but as much of it as you can marshal. The very input of an abnormal amount of energy into the present moment will evoke an abnormal response from energy in general. This is how extraordinarily successful people are highly successful – they put their energy into the here and now and, as a result, they have presence. That is what you must do too.

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